The Art of Moving On

It's almost December and you're already feeling the cold Christmas breeze. But you got ditched or just came out from a dying relationship. So what? What's next? Is it the end of the world? Hey wake UP. It's just the beginning of a fun-filled life. Romeo/Juliet should now be up on their feet with head held up high. Aren't you glad that you still have the chance to meet that one special creature destined for you? It's time that you embrace the art of moving on.

• Accept that the game is over. People who came from a failed relationship are happy when they acknowledge and accept the fact that it's totally over and it was part of the past. 

• When you have accepted the truth, love yourself. The pain will still be there but remember that if you dwell too much on the past, you are hurting yourself. Let go of the bad memories pal. You should gradually learn to detach from those memories, be it good or bad ones.

• Hang out with friends. Let it out. Whatever it is that still bothers you, spit it out. Cry hard like there's no tomorrow. Friends are always there to listen. Eventually it'll make you feel better. You can talk it over few drinks. Indulge yourself with a girl's/boy's night out or a baking session with girl friends perhaps.

• Plan a trip. It would be better if you do it alone. In this way, you'll appreciate more the adventurous life of being single. Do the things that you have never done before. Who says being single is never fun? Nothing is more exciting than packing up and going on an adventure. Ignite the explorer in you.

• Keep in touch with your family and friends. Attend or initiate a family gathering. You'll be surprised to know that you haven't lost everything after that heartbreak. You still have an amazing support system and that is them.

• Try something new. Get a new look or enroll in a special class like cooking or a sport clinic. It's good for your health, mind and soul. Always let yourself be preoccupied with fun activities and tasks.

Allow yourself to experience all the fun of being single. It doesn't mean that if you're not in a relationship, you are unhappy. With what's been mentioned above, it would be easier for you to move on and keep moving forward. There's no turning back. It happened for you to learn and most of all for you to love yourself. Enjoy the perks of being single!

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How to Handle a "Friends-Over-Me" Dilemma

Life would be so boring without our friends. They're described as our long lost siblings. Friends, and I'm not just talking acquaintance friends, are the first ones (of course, aside from your family) who will tell you if you mess up. They are given that special courage by God to tell straight to your face if something's wrong with you. There could be times that they sounded way beyond the line but that's how true friends act. And they also has that habit of talking about how they find your dating partner. Most of the times, if you'd agree with me, the off side are the ones often served. That is why conflicts would arise between the couple when one of them has the trouble of breaking in with the other's friends zone especially when one of them has more time with the buddies than their partners. So do you really need to get into your partner's friend zone? How would you get his friends' approval? Do you need to?

A friend once told me that it's hard to compete with your partners' friends. Luckily, it was effortless for me since me and my husband have the same circle of friends. Her partner on the other hand spends more time with his buddies than with her which ended up with both of them calling it's over. As she recalls, her partner would resort to lying if he'll go out with his pals since she obviously despise the existence of his friends. That is normal for girls to feel that way when there is rejection from his friends especially if you and them are completely strangers and doesn't share even the slightest of interests. But how should you handle this dilemma?

First, drop the "competing" idea. You should not compete with his friends. His friends are already part of his life before you came in the picture. He chose you to be his other half, a possible lifetime partner, and not just a pal. Therefore, there shouldn't be any competition at all. You are more special than his friends.

If you don't feel that way, tell him. There's no better way to solve a problem other than talking it over. But of course, there's a big difference between a talk and a nag. You should extremely avoid the  latter. Tell him that you'd appreciate a more "you and me" time. Show him that you miss him, you miss the moments that you both shared.

Think out of the box. Engage into some activities that could catch your partner's interest. In a relationship, it's not just a me and me, it's always a give and take. If he's into video games, then go ahead and practice and challenge him for an online battle. A little reward (romantic maybe) for winning could possible ignite that excitement. The point is, you should also act like the best pal ever to your partner.

Reach out. You are not forced to like his friends. But at least show some effort that you want to get to know them better. He'd appreciate that more than anything. You're actually catching two birds in one stone. Your effort will be appreciated by your partner and the getting to know part will of course give you a heads up on who's the good ones in the group and how you are supposed to treat his friends. Always remember that YOU are the leading role and the friends are the supporting casts. Be nice to them. That's the least that you can do.

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Love or Career? Which You Will Choose?

A very difficult choice if a big opportunity comes into your life. But there is only one absolute answer to this question and you will know it as you are reading this article.

Why Career?

Because you want to make sure that you have a bright future with your family. You want to make sure that you can provide all their needs by the time you already have babies. You want to make sure that you will not suffer from hunger. You want to make sure that everything will be alright and you can give them whatever they want. But with the time you spend on your career, have you ask yourself if you still have time with your family? If ever you already have kids and ask them what they want, and they've answered you, they want your time as a mom or dad. Can you give it to them if all you do is work work work? 

A lot of people will sacrifice the love to their family for them to provide all their needs and wants. It is not really a bad thing if you want to secure their future, but you should always give time to spend with your family. Because your family is a gift who will be there for you even through thick and thin.

Why Love?

There is no guarantee that you can provide all your children wants. But one thing is for sure, you will live a happy life. You can never find happiness with your career. All it will brought you up is stress which is not healthy for you. All of us deserve to be happy and live a longer life.

It is also a double win situation for you because your family would be your career. You have love, and you have a career. Though it is a different kind of career because you will be paid by love. There are times might be tougher, but love will make a way for you to survive all difficulties. Love works just like magic.

The hidden truth about choosing Love or Career.

Love is equivalent to God. While Career is equivalent to Money.

In Career you work for money. I understand that you want to secure your future and the future of your family. But the question is, will you be able to make a happy family with proper care and love if your mindset is on your career? Definitely not.

In Love you work for God. In 1 John 4:8, "Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love." You should share your love to others just what God do to us. Even give His on only begotten Son to save our sins. And the first command of God to Adam and Eve, "Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground." As I have said earlier, your family is your career. You've already won with the love of your family, plus the career. 

Will you choose Money over God?

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Money is the Root of All Evil? Not Really

The idea that has been spread all over the world that "Money is the root of all evil" is definitely wrong. Money is not the root of all evil, but it is only a tool that we used everyday. In fact, we can use it to help other people that is in need. The problem is not the money, but GREED is.

To correct this phrase "Greed is the root of all Evil". Many people are so greedy with their wealth, they did not realize how it will affect to the people in need. That's why crimes (robbery, stealing, etc.) happened all the time because of the need to survive with their life. Imagine if all of us sharing with all our needs, there should be peace on earth but that's too ideal, isn't it? In reality, greed lives in every person and there's no way to eliminate this until you completely surrender yourself to God.

In Matthew 19:21, Jesus answered when He asked by a rich man what else he can do aside from following the Ten Commandments, "If you want to be perfect, go, sell your possessions and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven. Then come, follow me."

Your ultimate purpose in life is to share. And always think that if you share good things to the people in need, it will come back to you 10 times greater. Use your money as tool to help others and eliminate the greediness that lives in you. That might be so hard to do, but you can do it little by little everyday. In time, you will never notice that you have already surrendered yourself to God.

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The Secret To Live a Longer Life

Have you ever wondered why there are a lot of people in the streets still living despite of their situation? It doesn’t really matter whether you are poor, middle class or rich if you want to live longer. If you have this in your life, then I am very sure that you will live longer. And that secret is HAPPINESS. Pretty simple right? You just need to be happy to live longer. In other words, you are stress free, no problems to think or whatsoever. You might not have notice it but stress can cause several diseases (cancer, high-blood pressure, heart attack etc.). What worst is that many people will commit suicide because they can’t handle the stress.

Let’s go back to the question, why some street people can live longer compared to some middle class or rich people. That’s because they are not stress, they are contented on what they have and just enjoying on what they do. All they have to think is to provide their daily food. It only shows that the more simple your life is, the longer your life will be. I know you are already thinking about your grandmother or grandfather that reached almost 100 of age. Yes, because they live a simple life and yet happy in every moments.

It’s just so sad to say that many of us belong to those stress people. This is also one of the reasons why in today’s generation it is so hard to reach at the age of 60. But it is really up to you whether you will stay in stress or overcome it. If you are stress, then seek for answer to overcome it, and find the road to happiness. Always remember that in every problem there is a solution, and every solution there is a formula. You just need to use the right formula on your problems.

If you think you are stress don’t keep it on yourself. Call your closest friend and invite him/her for a talk. Do not pretend that you are happy or fine even though you are not. The thing is if you will keep your stress all by yourself, it might explode and you will never know what you can do to yourself.

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