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Sep 6, 2014

"I Do" or "I Quit"

A family is the fundamental unit of society. However, in this new generation society is already facing the truth that there is a growing number of broken families year by year. There still might be a whole and intact family but a dysfunctional one.  It's actually  a challenge to parents or parents-to-be on how to keep that family as a whole in the long run. But if you're still on the pre-wedding phase of your relationship, would you say "I Do" or "I Quit" ?  When should you say that it's over?

Who doesn't want a complete and happy family? Everyone dreams of having one. We all want to come home to a family that nurtures happiness and togetherness. For parents, we never would wish for our children to live in an unhappy environment. That is why, even if its already time to let go, others would still choose to hold on just for the sake of the kids and fake it. They would think that it would be easier that way but then real emotions would really pour out no matter how hard you squeeze it in. In some cases, kids would then see their parents in the midst of a heavy argument or worst in a physical fight. The easy one actually becomes the hardest one not just for both of you but for your children.
    
So, if you're one of those love birds who are very eager to walk down the aisle, perhaps you should try revisiting these questions to assess if your future married life would result into a happy family. If you have doubts, then it could be the right time to say I quit than I do.

> Does he/she have time for your family? What about a "you and me" time?
> Does he/she go out alone secretly?
> Does he/she spends more time with other people than you?
> Do you always end up in a heavy argument?
> Are you physically hurting each other?
> Do you bad mouth each other?
>  Is there still trust in your relationship?
>  Do you still feel that fire and excitement when you make love with each other?
> Do you see yourself with someone else?
> Do you still feel happiness when you're together?
> Do you still enjoy small talks with your partner?
> Do you have other goals in life without your partner in the picture?
> Can you withstand the pain if you both take separate ways?
> Is there still an effort to make the relationship grow?
> Have you grown as an individual while in the relationship?
> Are you fully ready to take on the challenge of a married life?

This is not to scare you away but to help you assess your relationship. There's not even a perfect marriage but if you both exert extra effort then you're doing the right thing. Marriage is a constant work indeed. Many have failed it but there's still some who's nailing it well. Therefore, it's not impossible to achieve a happy and healthy family life.

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