Jealous. NO Way!

Old folks would say that jealousy keeps the relationship healthy. It is even labeled as the necessary protector of LOVE. You feel jealous because you love that person. Jealousy arises when there is a threat that someone will take away what is yours. But as we all know, too much of something is bad enough. Jealousy these days often leads to breakups and violence. Divorce and crime rates can attest to that. So when do you consider jealousy as a healthy one?

When you're in a relationship, jealousy assures your partner that someone is afraid to lose that magical bond between you and would even fight for it if the need arise. It's a kinda sweet when someone is afraid of losing you. But if it would result to hitting and other form of violence, well that is not oh so sweet anymore. Emotional instability- anger, depression, insecurity, are just some of the factors that triggers jealousy. So how are you going to avoid it?

Love yourself. There's no better way to minimize jealousy but to love yourself. If you feel happy with who you are and what you have, you'll never wish of becoming someone else. And when you think that way, you are securing yourself that you are the right partner for your loved one and that he/she wouldn't let go of you coz you're the best thing that happened to him/her.

Think before you act. When you see your partner exchanging interesting talk with somebody else whom you think has the potential to get in between you, don't butt in and explode. Think before you act for you can't turn back time. If you let your emotions overrule you, you'd end up either behind the bars or you two calling it's over. Assess the scene first and observe how your partner acts  with that person. If you see that he is flirting back, then talk it over privately and remind him the bond that you two have.

Learn the art of trusting. Once you learn to trust your partner, your helping yourself from any mental stress and your gearing toward a stronger relationship. If you always act like the desperate stalker just to catch your partner right on the act, of which is a result of your deliriously dirty mind, then you're really cultivating that jealousy in you. Your partner would appreciate if he feels that you trust him and would even do all his best to keep that trust unbreakable.

You are the best. Oh yes, show him that there's no one out there better than you. In this way, he'd never think of replacing you. Constantly show him that you'd be a great loss if he let you go.With this, you are negating any future tension that would arise due to jealousy because you're are secured with your bond and he wouldn't bother looking for someone else.

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